Relationships. They can be both wonderful and devastating at the same time. It’s wonderful when a relationship works out. But when it doesn’t, it can be gut-wrenchingly painful. One way that a relationship starts to break down is when one person begins to cheat. Sometimes both partners are guilty of cheating on each other, but most of the time, it’s one person. I
t’s hard to find out that your partner is cheating on you and even harder to know they’re lying to you about it. That’s like slapping you with two heartbreaks at once. But if your partner is lying, it’s better to know about it, even if it is painful to deal with.
If you want answers to confirm what you’ve been suspecting all along, there is something you could do. You could engage private investigator services. A private investigator can help you put your mind at ease and perhaps gather the information you need to decide your next step. It will be hard, but you can pick yourself up again and be stronger from this experience.
Here is how to tell if your partner is lying about cheating:
1. Partner has changed behaviour
This is the number one sign that something is up. If their behaviour suddenly has a very noticeable change, that’s the red flag you need to tell you something is up.
People like to think that they’re doing a good job of telling a lie, but the truth is they are not. The signs will always be there if you pay attention, no matter how hard they try to hide them. If their behaviour or regular habits suddenly start changing, be on your guard. If you question them and deny it vehemently or become defensive, you know something is up.
2. Partner seems distant lately
You and your partner have always had a close relationship, but lately, you’ve had a hard time connecting with them. A relationship needs open communication, but it’s hard to do that when someone has a secret they don’t want you to know about.
Suddenly, it feels like you’re talking to a stranger. When you try to engage with them, they seem reluctant and closed-off. They say they don’t feel like talking, and when you try to persist, they snap and get angry with you. Keep your eyes and ears open because your partner could be behaving like this because they found someone else.
3. Partner avoids making eye contact with you
If it wasn’t bad enough, you’re having a hard time trying to engage them. When you finally get them to speak up, they avoid making eye contact with you. People are generally uneasy when it comes to deception on a subconscious level. They pretend to be okay with it, but their guilty conscience won’t let them sleep soundly at night. Or make eye contact in this case.
Not everyone can lie effortlessly without losing sleep at night. Most people are bad liars, and difficulty making eye contact is one of those telltale signs of a liar at work. However, they could go the opposite way and make too much eye contact.
Your partner could be so desperate to prove that they are not lying that they make excessive eye contact to the point where you feel uncomfortable. They’re trying way too hard to persuade you that they’re not lying. They end up giving away clues to their dishonest behaviour after all.
4. Partner suddenly becomes too busy
They always had time for you in the past, even when they were busy. But lately, there is always one excuse after another when you try to spend time with them.
The most common excuse that gets used is that they’re “busy with work stuff” or they have “plans to meet friends.” Sure, technically, there is nothing wrong with this, but when it becomes too frequent, and there’s no evidence to support this, that’s when you should start to become suspicious that your partner may not be telling the whole truth.
5. Partner has suspicious social media activities
People often forget that you can find out anything on social media these days. Many partners, spouses, boyfriends, and girlfriends have found out the hard way that their other half was cheating on them by accident on social media.
If your partner tells you one story, but their social media tells you something else, that’s a clue that they’re lying to you about cheating. Social media slip-ups happen more often than you think, especially for those who love to share their life on social media. If your partner is so used to posting stories and updates on social media, they do it without even thinking twice. One of those days, their posts are going to give them away.